I LONG TO MEET YOU
I wrote a poem about this longing a while back that sparked a lot of resonance and curiosity from some of you, so I thought I would share...
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Ida Helmers
- May 21
- 2 min
It’s time for a new relational culture.
Right now a very painful and dysfunctional relationship dynamic is being played out on live TV for the world to see. As you watch the...
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Ida Helmers
- Apr 25
- 2 min
HAPPILY EVER AFTER?
Although many of us long for that perfect relationship with no conflicts, the freedom to be ourselves fully while feeling committed and...
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Ida Helmers
- Apr 15
- 3 min
HELPING YOUR CHILD EXPRESS ANGER
- Mom! There’s anger that wants to come out... I think I need to wrestle! - Sure, lets wrestle. - You know, it’s funny mom, even if I’m...
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Ida Helmers
- Apr 14
- 3 min
WHEN MY CHILD BECOMES MY ENEMY
When my child is expressing anger towards me and I don’t have the capacity to hold them in it, my nervous system will perceive them as a...
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Ida Helmers
- Apr 8
- 2 min
AUTHENTICITY vs. BELONGING
To be yourself or to fit in, that is the question. Be yourself off course, you might think - unfortunately it’s not always that easy and...
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Ida Helmers
- Apr 6
- 2 min
FROM POWERLESS TO EMPOWERED PARENT
I remember studying children’s development and attachment trauma when my daughter was one year old, feeling so bad about everything I...
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Ida Helmers
- Mar 15
- 3 min
Relearning relationship
Are you aware of your core wound? That experience you made in a relationship early on in life, a relational trauma that still impacts you...
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Ida Helmers
- Mar 11
- 4 min
Why nervous system awareness is important for parents - how to help your child regulate
Children co-regulate with their caregivers nervous systems so that they can learn how to self-regulate. Your child tunes in on your...
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Ida Helmers
- Jan 27
- 1 min
RESISTANCE CREATES DISAPPOINTMENT
If you choose to only welcome certain aspects of life you will be constantly disappointed that life doesn’t give you what you want. If...
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Ida Helmers
- Jan 24
- 3 min
CO-REGULATION IS PEACE WORK
It is becoming more and more clear to me just how much we need human connection to live a life where we can thrive, not just survive. Our...
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Ida Helmers
- May 11, 2021
- 1 min
BODY TALK Have you learned the language of your body?
The sensations from your body are words of presence, each one an anchor that brings you back to NOW. Your body is not alive yesterday or...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 1 min
Dear sister.
The peace between us begins when we can see what starts the war. When I compare myself to you, as if I’m either above you or below. ...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 1 min
You have an impact
You have already touched so many lives and changed them forever. There are countless people that are not the same as they were before...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 2 min
Authenticity vs. belonging
As children belonging is more important to us than authenticity, as adults authenticity is more important than belonging - yet we still...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 2 min
I became a savior when you died.
I thought that I could save you with my love. 11 years ago on Valentine’s Day you ended your life, after trying every other way you could...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 1 min
Do you know your inner child?
Do you know when she awakens, triggered, hurt and scared? Do you let her know that she is safe when she feels rootless, lost and...
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Ida Helmers
- Feb 15, 2020
- 1 min
Turning shit into compost
Create a blog post subtitle that summarizes your post in a few short, punchy sentences and entices your audience to continue reading....
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