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Creating space between stimulus and response

“Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
/ Viktor E. Frankl

I love this quote, cause it speaks so much to the work that I do: helping clients and participants to create more space within themselves.

It is amazing to witness how, once there is more space around their instinctual responses, that enables them to take aligned action and not just go on autopilot and recreate old patterns.

I would add, however, that this is not something you can just decide you want and then you magically have it.

No, you'd need to very intentionally create spaciousness within your nervous system to be able to hold the tension between stimulus and response.

This is only possible through slowing down enough to find that small opening and then regulate your nervous system, until the small opening widens into enough space for a new choice to be made.

This is why the first thing that we do in our relational laboratories is slooooooooow everything down.

* This is where we can bring in the missing awareness to the subconscious patterns that run our lives.

* This is where we can regulate our nervous system to create enough of an inner sense of safety to stay connected to ourselves while meeting another.

* This is where we can start to take new steps towards how we actually want to relate, show up and connect to others.

* This is where we shift our patterns into new intentional experiences.

There’s still some spaces left in our beautiful venue in Malmö this coming weekend and we would love to have you there.

You choose the price that meets you where you’re at. Read more under upcoming events at my website.

Let´s slow down together and widen the space between stimulus and response until it expands into new possibilities, that will ripple out into all areas of you life.

Photo: Zi Ta / Zita M. Photography

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