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We need each other to heal what was hurt by another.

Relational trauma and dysfunctional relational patterns can only be fully healing in relationship.


This is what I create spaces for in my workshops.


“You can’t solve trauma from inside the trauma - it is found outside of the trauma by experiencing new behaviors, new movements and new sensations.”
/ Peter Levine

Last weekend I held a mini version of the relational laboratory at a festival and was amazed by the depth we could reach together in a couple of hours.


Together we met at the edge between old and new, familiar and unfamiliar, known and unknown.


Then we intentionally created new experiences for each other, that met that edge and the desire to take a step towards something new.


Daring to speak up, setting a boundary or just being seen and heard. Receiving a longing, being held and encouraged in loving presence.


All of these missing relational experiences were all of a sudden available in our field of mutual support and service.


Deeply touched I witnessed how new possibilities opened up where there had been hopelessness, trust awakened where there had been mistrust and hope entered the room.


So much hope.


If this is possible for strangers that come together for a couple of hours within a couple of days, imagine what else is possible…


Or just come and find out at one of my upcoming offerings!


11/9 TRYGGHETENS GROGRUND - fördjupningskurs i autentiskt relaterande, nervsystemsförståelse & läkning


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- a brave space to shift your relational patterns into new experiences, that I hold together with my beloved from evolutionary integrity


17-19/11 EVOLUTIONARY RELATIONSHIP COACHING TRAINING - Trauma informed and needs oriented couples counseling with Rouven Schneider


I look forward to seeing you there ✨


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There is no such thing as having a regulated nervous system.

Saying you want to have a regulated nervous system, is like saying you want to be happy all the time.


I mean yes, that would be nice, but no it’s not very likely to happen.


Life will bring you ups and downs, which in your nervous system looks like a constant movement between different degrees of activation.


What you want is to be able to meet and move through those activations, as supposed to getting stuck in them for longer periods of time.


Having a flexible nervous system means being able to move through the spectrum of activation and regulation with more ease.

You can increase your nervous system flexibility through having a daily embodiment practice and using somatic tools for regulation.


Somatic therapy or coaching can support you in finding what works for your unique nervous system.


I still have some slots available during summer and you can book a free discovery call through my website.


I also have a one day retreat coming up this Sunday in Dalby as well as a 6-week deep dive course where we learn more about this, you find both events on my website.


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What is in the way is the way.

When we start taking new steps towards what we want in life we are usually met by either fear, doubt or frustration pretty soon on our path.


Usually we either give up here or ignore and push down what came up.


When we meet these feeling on our path it is important to know that how we meet them is crucial to how far we can go on this path.


It is easy to judge these things as bad or wrong and with that make ourselves or the path we're on wrong.


Often I see coaches talk about this as self-sabotage with the advice that you just need to push through it and keep believing.


While it is good to keep believing, pushing through means pushing down important information about what we need to walk further on this path.


What happens is that when we move into the unknown our nervous system activates parts of us there to protect us from danger = the unknown.


These parts then tell us stories through fear, doubt and frustration about why this is the wrong path, why we are wrong for this path and why this will never work, etc...


However, underneath the stories are keys to unlock our next steps that these parts hold within their care for us.


If we can meet these parts when they're trying to protect us and listen to what thhey have to say, they will show us how we can move forwards with more strength and stability.


If we just move forwards without listening to our inner conflicting parts, we will walk with shaky steps until they show up again and throw us off our direction.


Doubts, fears and frustrations are not obstacles to overcome on our way forward - they are our way forward.


What we meet on our way holds a gift that can guide our next steps - if we let it.


What is in the way is the way.


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If you are curious to meet what is in your way right now and uncover the gifts in it for you, I am here to support you through trauma informed somatic coaching.


Book your free discovery call or first session through my website.


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