Needing to be in the same reality is what prevents us from being in the same reality.
Needing to have the same point of view is what prevents us from truly seeing the point of any view.
Needing to be in harmony to be able to connect is what prevents us from creating harmony through connection.
Needing to find a solution to meet our own needs is what prevents us from finding the solution we need.
When our realities are allowed to co-exist we can start to find common ground.
As long as we are fighting or ignoring the fact that the other has a different experience than us, our experiences cannot co-exist and hence we cannot really co-exist either.