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Fertile ground

Deep within your inner ecosystem is a fertile ground.


No matter what you’ve been through and where you come from this soil is ripe and ready to nourish any seeds you plant in it.


As in nature the ground holds a life force within its cells that with the only purpose to support life to evolve.


Life is calling for more life.
Life is always looking for healing.
Life is moving towards what is life affirming.

There is a wisdom within your nervous system that is constantly looking for wholeness and completeness.


No matter what hurt you’ve experienced or created your nervous system is waiting for new experiences to alchemize all of that into healing.


As in nature this wisdom never stops evolving to find new ways to avoid pain and create fulfillment so that life can flow more freely through you.


Life is calling for more life.

Life is always looking for healing.

Life is moving towards what is life affirming.


If we let it.

If we get out of the way.

If we intentionally plant the seeds of safety and trust.


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Are you curious to learn more and practice intentionally planting seeds of safety within the fertile ground of your nervous system?


Come join us for a deep dive into nervous system awareness, authentic relating and relational healing that starts 19/11 in Malmö.


Over six weeks time we meet three Sundays to practice together, each week a different theme will be sent out to you to reflect and meditate on as well as the possibility to join a support group between the meetings.


Learn more through events on my website .

Photo by Zita M Photography


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Creating space between stimulus and response

“Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
/ Viktor E. Frankl

I love this quote, cause it speaks so much to the work that I do: helping clients and participants to create more space within themselves.


It is amazing to witness how, once there is more space around their instinctual responses, that enables them to take aligned action and not just go on autopilot and recreate old patterns.


I would add, however, that this is not something you can just decide you want and then you magically have it.


No, you'd need to very intentionally create spaciousness within your nervous system to be able to hold the tension between stimulus and response.

This is only possible through slowing down enough to find that small opening and then regulate your nervous system, until the small opening widens into enough space for a new choice to be made.


This is why the first thing that we do in our relational laboratories is slooooooooow everything down.


* This is where we can bring in the missing awareness to the subconscious patterns that run our lives.


* This is where we can regulate our nervous system to create enough of an inner sense of safety to stay connected to ourselves while meeting another.


* This is where we can start to take new steps towards how we actually want to relate, show up and connect to others.


* This is where we shift our patterns into new intentional experiences.


There’s still some spaces left in our beautiful venue in Malmö this coming weekend and we would love to have you there.


You choose the price that meets you where you’re at. Read more under upcoming events at my website.


Let´s slow down together and widen the space between stimulus and response until it expands into new possibilities, that will ripple out into all areas of you life.


Photo: Zi Ta / Zita M. Photography


 
 
 

We need each other to heal what was hurt by another.

Relational trauma and dysfunctional relational patterns can only be fully healing in relationship.


This is what I create spaces for in my workshops.


“You can’t solve trauma from inside the trauma - it is found outside of the trauma by experiencing new behaviors, new movements and new sensations.”
/ Peter Levine

Last weekend I held a mini version of the relational laboratory at a festival and was amazed by the depth we could reach together in a couple of hours.


Together we met at the edge between old and new, familiar and unfamiliar, known and unknown.


Then we intentionally created new experiences for each other, that met that edge and the desire to take a step towards something new.


Daring to speak up, setting a boundary or just being seen and heard. Receiving a longing, being held and encouraged in loving presence.


All of these missing relational experiences were all of a sudden available in our field of mutual support and service.


Deeply touched I witnessed how new possibilities opened up where there had been hopelessness, trust awakened where there had been mistrust and hope entered the room.


So much hope.


If this is possible for strangers that come together for a couple of hours within a couple of days, imagine what else is possible…


Or just come and find out at one of my upcoming offerings!


11/9 TRYGGHETENS GROGRUND - fördjupningskurs i autentiskt relaterande, nervsystemsförståelse & läkning


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- a brave space to shift your relational patterns into new experiences, that I hold together with my beloved from evolutionary integrity


17-19/11 EVOLUTIONARY RELATIONSHIP COACHING TRAINING - Trauma informed and needs oriented couples counseling with Rouven Schneider


I look forward to seeing you there ✨


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