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Authenticity vs. belonging

Updated: May 5, 2021

As children belonging is more important to us than authenticity, as adults authenticity is more important than belonging - yet we still operate from how our need for belonging was met in childhood.

I’ve had this reoccurring theme in my life where I’m petrified of doing something wrong.

Underneath the fear is a longing to belong to the tribe and not be outcast.

Today that same fear awoke as some people were triggered by my actions.

Suddenly I found myself panicking about what the consequences would be...

My nervous system played out the fear of actually dying if I get kicked out of the tribe - what is actually true for a child.

A child does not survive without its caretakers.