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I wrote a poem about this longing a while back that sparked a lot of resonance and curiosity from some of you, so I thought I would share more about where it came from while also inviting you to a new workshop that was birthed from it.

Here we go...

Most of us long to meet more authentically, to be met in our true expression and welcome others in theirs - yet we all seem to struggle with it.

Here is my take on why:

As children most of us experienced that some of our expression was not welcomed, often times our anger and our NO was shamed, silenced or punished. So to not upset our caregivers and main source of survival we would suppress our true needs and expression and do what we tough they preferred.

As adults it is then really hard to access something we've suppressed for so long, meaning it is difficult or almost impossible for us to actually feel our true NO & YES.

Especially in relational situations, where our nervous system associates expressing our needs, boundaries & desires with possible danger since the shaming, silencing or punishment from our childhood live as trauma in our nervous system.

This leads to us actually not being able to be fully authentic with one another, since our nervous system is doing everything it can to prevent us from expressing our truth.